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The Woman He Wasn't Supposed to Talk To

This is a teaching about the old idea that God lives in a particular building, and that some people are the right kind to come near him. Jesus sat down at a well in Samaria, asked the wrong person for a drink, and told her the walls were coming down.

A teaching in the voice of James. Read it, or have the next one sent to you. No fear. No sales. Just the Gospel, read on its own terms.

This is a story and a teaching about an idea that almost every religion has held at some point, which is that God keeps an address. There is a proper hill, or a proper building, or a proper room, and there are proper people who are allowed to come near it, and then there is everybody else, who is told in a hundred small ways that the door is not really for them. A lot of people still carry that feeling, even people who stopped going to church years ago.

Jesus walked into the one region his own people went out of their way to avoid, sat down at a well in the heat of the day, and had a long conversation with a woman who was wrong on every count that mattered to the men of his time. Before it was over he told her that the whole business of the right hill and the right building was ending.

So let us go sit at that well with them and hear the conversation from the first four words to the last.

The road through Samaria

Jesus was traveling north out of Judea, heading home to Galilee. Samaria sat in between, the hill country in the middle, and the people who lived there were the Samaritans.

The Samaritans and the Jewish people shared some of the same ancestors and some of the same scriptures. They had split centuries before, and by this time the hatred ran hot on both sides. Samaritans worshiped God on Mount Gerizim. Jewish people worshiped God at the temple in Jerusalem. Each side counted the other unclean. Most Jewish travelers making this trip crossed the river and took the long way around rather than set foot on Samaritan ground.

John, who wrote this account, says Jesus had to go through Samaria.

He came to a town called Sychar, near a piece of land Jacob had given his son Joseph long ago. There was a deep well there that everyone in the region called Jacob’s well. It was around noon. Jesus had been walking since morning and he was worn out, so he sat down on the stone edge of that well. His friends went into the town to buy food, and he was there alone.

A tired traveler resting alone at an ancient stone well under a high, bright sky
He sat down at the well, tired, and waited.

Four words

A woman came out from the town to draw water, carrying her jar. She was by herself. The well was deep, over a hundred feet down to the water. Drawing from it meant lowering a vessel on a long rope and hauling it back up hand over hand. Then she had to carry the full jar home again.

Jesus said to her, give me to drink.

She stopped. She knew how strange those four words were, and she said so out loud.

Then saith the woman of Samaria unto him, How is it that thou, being a Jew, askest drink of me, which am a woman of Samaria? for the Jews have no dealings with the Samaritans.John 4:9

He had just stepped over three lines at once. She was a Samaritan, and a Jewish traveler was not supposed to eat or drink from a Samaritan’s vessel. She was a woman, and a Jewish teacher did not stand in a public place having a conversation with a woman he did not know. She was alone, with no husband and no brother standing nearby. He asked her for a drink anyway, and he asked first, before she had said anything at all.

The water

He told her that if she knew the gift of God, and who it was asking her for a drink, she would have asked him instead, and he would have given her living water.

Living water was a plain phrase in her language. It meant moving water, a spring or a stream, the kind that runs on its own. Still water sat at the bottom of a cistern. So she pointed out the obvious. He had nothing to draw with, and the well was deep. Where was he going to get moving water from? Then she asked whether he thought he was greater than Jacob, who dug this well and drank from it himself, along with his children and his cattle.

Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.John 4:13-14

She was standing there holding an empty clay jar, in the hottest part of the day, having made the walk out from town that she made every day of her life. She told him she wanted that water, so she would not have to keep coming out here.

Two hands meeting over a well, one offering, one receiving, at golden hour
He offered her water that would never run out.

Her whole life, out loud

He told her to go call her husband and come back.

She said she had no husband. Four words, and nothing else offered.

For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.John 4:18

He told her she had spoken the truth, and that she had had five husbands, and that the man she was with now was not her husband.

Then he kept talking with her. He said no name over her, gave her no instruction about her life, asked her for no shame. He stayed at the well and the conversation went on.

She said he must be a prophet.

The question about the mountain

Then she asked him the question she had presumably wanted to ask a religious man her whole life.

Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, she said, and you people say that Jerusalem is the place where a person must worship.

She was standing at the foot of Mount Gerizim while she said it. Behind her were her parents and grandparents and every generation before them, worshiping on that hill. Down the road was the temple, and the men who told her that hill was worth nothing.

Jesus saith unto her, Woman, believe me, the hour cometh, when ye shall neither in this mountain, nor yet at Jerusalem, worship the Father… But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth… God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.John 4:21-24

He did not take her mountain over his, and he did not take his over hers. He told her both addresses were coming to an end.

He was also straight with her about where the line of promise had run.

Ye worship ye know not what: we know what we worship: for salvation is of the Jews.John 4:22

She said she knew the Messiah was coming, and that when he came he would tell them everything.

Jesus told her that he was the one speaking to her.

A woman hurrying toward a town gate as people begin to follow her out toward the well
She left her jar and ran to tell the whole town.

What she did with it

His friends came back from town with the food and found him sitting there talking with her. John says they were surprised. Not one of them asked him what he wanted with her, or why he was speaking to her at all. They offered him the food. He told them he had food they knew nothing about.

She left her water jar sitting on the ground and walked back into Sychar and started telling the men of the town.

The woman then left her waterpot, and went her way into the city, and saith to the men, Come, see a man, which told me all things that ever I did: is not this the Christ?John 4:28-29

The town came out to the well to see him. They asked him to stay, and he stayed there two days.

And said unto the woman, Now we believe, not because of thy saying: for we have heard him ourselves, and know that this is indeed the Christ, the Saviour of the world.John 4:42

God is a Spirit

The longest conversation Jesus has with anybody in the book of John is this one, with a Samaritan woman at a well, and the first person he tells plainly that he is the Messiah is her. The first person to go and preach him to a town is her, and she does it that same afternoon, without being sent and without being trained.

And the thing he told her is the thing the whole religious world of that time was built against. God is a Spirit. He is not kept on a hill, and he is not kept in a building, and no one has to travel to reach him or be born in the right town to be allowed near. What he asks for is a true heart, and a true heart is portable.

That is the God Jesus revealed. Mercy that goes to find people rather than waiting behind a door for the right ones to arrive.

Maybe you have stood outside a door somebody told you was not for you. Because of where you came from, or what you have done, or something about you that made people lower their voices. He went out of his way to reach a woman at a well in the middle of the day. He knew every part of her life before she said a word of it. And he kept talking.

Come walk with us through these old stories, slow and plain, with the hard parts left in. There is water here that does not run out, and there is room at this well for you.

The scripture, in full

Sources & Scripture

Every verse this teaching rests on is here, for completeness. Tap any one to read it in full.

John 4:9

Then saith the woman of Samaria unto him, How is it that thou, being a Jew, askest drink of me, which am a woman of Samaria? for the Jews have no dealings with the Samaritans.

John 4:13-14

Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.

John 4:18

For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.

John 4:21-24

Jesus saith unto her, Woman, believe me, the hour cometh, when ye shall neither in this mountain, nor yet at Jerusalem, worship the Father... But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth... God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.

John 4:22

Ye worship ye know not what: we know what we worship: for salvation is of the Jews.

John 4:28-29

The woman then left her waterpot, and went her way into the city, and saith to the men, Come, see a man, which told me all things that ever I did: is not this the Christ?

John 4:42

And said unto the woman, Now we believe, not because of thy saying: for we have heard him ourselves, and know that this is indeed the Christ, the Saviour of the world.

Be grateful. Forgive. Be kind. There is a piece of the Father in you — the same piece that was in him.

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